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It's my first marathon and I ran 18 miles yesterday for the first time- I should feel elated but I suddenly just want to quit! I'm a slow runner (probably over 5.5 hour marathon finish) and yesterday in the last say 4 miles I was hurting, hanging on, running slow. I had people start to comment as I passed them, making fun of how slow I was running. In my last mile, I was in agony- I passed two teenage girls who said "look at that lady and how terrible she is at running". At that point I had to sit down and have a bit of a cry. Wondering what on earth I'm doing signing up for this. I'm not great at running I'm not fast, but I'm running at the minute 30 miles a week doing my best. But I feel like I have no business doing this. I know I should think "to hell with those people and their comments" but it's hurt my confidence so badly. Has anyone else had experience with people being a bit mean to them on runs?

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  1. MI

    MikeG1 What marathon was this? First I've heard of abuse during an event rather than when training. Most read morespectators are very supportive but, like anything else, a few idiots will often spoil it. Try to put it behind you and keep on running.

    0 12 Jun 17
  2. Jay

    Jay It's horrible how some people can be but if that's their attitude then karma is always ready & waiting

    0 12 Jun 17
  3. Claire72

    Claire72 We all have to put up with these idiots from time to time. Ignore them and use this community get read moreeven better than you are already. We are all awesome!!

    0 11 Jun 17
  4. Nikita

    Nikita YOU are Amazing!! DO NOT give up. Those people are mean and Bullys. they are proberly jelous that read moreyou can run. keep up the good work and ignore your critics

    0 10 Jun 17
  5. Printerman

    Printerman Ignore those idiots. They couldn't keep up with you if they could be bothered to put a pair of read moreshoes on. When you are at your lowest and are receiving snide comments cast your mind back to the total strangers (friends) you have on here who are spurring you on. I'd love to complete a marathon so you are well ahead of me!!!

    0 6 Jun 17
  6. kevin.baldwin.524

    kevin.baldwin.524 Ignore the idiots

    It sounds like you are doing amazing

    0 4 Jun 17
  7. Happy

    Happy try yoga Pranayama

    yoga

    0 2 Jun 17
  8. TimmyTwoSheds

    TimmyTwoSheds It's only natural to have an ebb and flow in motivation, particularly as the ache of those miles read moredrags on your heart and soul. Growth and development are invariably accompanied by some discomfort, but know that each time you press on beyond your previously perceived limits, you become physically, mentally and spiritually stronger than you were before. If you persevere, you will transcend. With regard to snide comments from teenagers, well, they're just kids that have practically no experience of life. No point trying to explain it because they clearly already know everything. In my experience, such verbal flatulence from strangers is like a cloud of mozzies: Briefly annoying in passing, irritating if you let it bite, but ultimately insignificant.

    0 2 Jun 17
  9. GI

    Gillian Ignore them! I get that sort of stuff too. I just smile wave and keep going. My daughter found a read morequote that I've copied and got stuck to my fridge door; "I may be slow, but I'm lapping everyone on the couch"

    3 1 Jun 17
  10. SL

    Slightly less Failed runner Ahh don't let them get you down,I've had loads of horrible remarks.just completed my first half read moremarathon Sunday,I had lots of insults about "any slower and you'll be walking"..speed up grandma (I'm 42)...also been attacked by an American Akita,and even tho you feel exhausted,how amazing are you going to feel when you cross that finish line and join the marathon club..I'm only dreaming of marathon at the moment so I think ur brilliant.well done you'll get there.💪🏼🏃🏽

    2 2 May 17
  11. ZO

    1z2o3e Just think of them as people for you to run straight past! Keep going - what you're doing is just brilliant.

    1 1 May 17
  12. Rupert

    Rupert Next time anybody makes a derogatory comment regarding your running, stop and challenge them to come read moreand do a run with you the next time your going running. I've no doubt as soon as you casually mention 10 miles or so their chins will probably hit the floor and they will feel like the complete idiots they are!

    1 1 May 17
  13. Manoj Kumar Rai

    Manoj Kumar Rai Oh dear, 18 miles is a lot. Those sitting outside cannot understand effort it takes to earn ability read moreto run 18 miles. Even a person with very good fitness and running practice takes more than 5 hours to complete Marathon. It would be a life time achievement for you hence dont quit. Be additional determined to run and complete it. Think of a feeling you will get after crossing finish line.

    I have encountered on many occasions people commenting, or even blowing horn. We need to just ignore those and carry on.

    Keep it up.

    2 1 May 17
  14. Paul

    Paul Sadly, you get nasty f*ckwits in all areas of life. Please don't let this stop you from running. At read more18 miles you're getting really close to hitting your marathon target. And to put it in to perspective ... 18 miles isn't too shabby for some who can't run/thinks she shouldn't be running.

    Sometimes in life you have to remember what god gave you middle fingers for ;) cos that's about all the response those silly little girls deserve

    3 30 Apr 17
  15. Lauramclennan

    Lauramclennan Ok so these teenage girls I bet weren't running and certainly if they were that were not putting in read morethe miles you are. Don't listen to them you are doing amazing!

    1 30 Apr 17
  16. CallumsRuns

    CallumsRuns Never take into account what people are saying around you, what makes you an incredible lady is the read moreperseverance and all the hard work to get to that point of running 18 miles! That's an admirable feet in itself!

    2 29 Apr 17
  17. JA

    Janice No don't lose hope. Just be on the decision you have taken. Do not bother about those stupid people. read more Only you know how much struggle you have made, so be their and give your best.

    1 29 Apr 17
  18. Michelle J

    Michelle J To be able to run 18, no, 20 miles is an amazing achievement. I wouldn't say you weren't great at read morerunning. In fact I'd say you are pretty awesome! What does it matter if you're slower than Mo or Paula. Most of us are! I'm not quick either and I've been heckled in the past by kids on bikes. I just told them they were brave, which they didn't understand and gave me time to move on. We've all felt like complete rubbish at the end of a long run too, so these mindless people aren't worthy of tying your runners, so you carry on and nail that marathon! And it doesn't matter how slow you think you are, you are moving faster than everyone sitting on the sofa... Good luck!

    1 28 Apr 17
  19. TR

    Tracey Omg!! You ran 18 miles !! You go girl and carry on what you at doing, ignore the negativity, and I read morecan bet as much money the teenager school kid would not I repeat would not be able to even come close to you on running miles and she will be fit as a fiddle and 1/4 of your age! Keep doing the good work your amazing, next time someone says any thing to you ,just remind them when your "exhausted /tired /sweating /red hot " that you have done many miles just before hand.....keeping going your fab

    1 26 Apr 17
  20. Chris Pattison

    Chris Pattison What you are doing is fantastic, you must keep it up. Sometimes some people are a bit daft, but read morethen you look at that chap helping the other runner over the line at London yesterday and it fills you full of joy of the good in people.

    I ran the Longhorn Marathon at the same time and good will between runners was really something special ... the encouragement you got when you clearly needed it was uplifting. So whilst there are some special kind of idiots about, there are also some very special kind folk.

    Best of luck at Sterling, it sounds like you are well on track to me.

    1 25 Apr 17